Why I Wrote Becoming Her (And Why You Need It)
I’m sitting in my Las Vegas sanctuary on a Sunday morning, staring at the blinking cursor on my screen, about to tell you something I’ve never fully admitted out loud:
I wrote this book because I needed it sixteen years ago—and no one had written it yet.
For sixteen years, I was “Postponed Karen.” The caregiver. The widow. The strong one who held everyone else’s world together while my own dreams waited in the wings. I survived sepsis three times—the same illness that took my husband. I lost parts of my body to the belief that sacrifice was the highest form of love. I treated my body like a warehouse for everyone else’s needs while it slowly broke down under the weight.
And the entire time, I was looking for a book—any book—that would tell me: “You’re not too late. You can choose yourself. And choosing yourself isn’t abandonment—it’s sacred stewardship.”
That book didn’t exist. So at 57, after making what I call “the Sacred Exit” from Savannah to Las Vegas, I decided to write it.
Not because I had it all figured out. But because I was finally becoming—and I knew I wasn’t alone in the dissolve.
The Book I Needed When I Was Drowning
Let me paint you a picture of who I was in 2016.
I was ten years into full-time caregiving for my mother. Seven years past losing my husband James to sepsis. Running a wedding and event planning business while managing medications, doctor’s appointments, and the relentless cycle of survival mode.
My body was a tool—something to be used, pushed, broken if necessary, as long as everyone else was taken care of.
Then sepsis came for me. The first time.
I remember lying in that hospital bed, hooked up to a PICC line, watching high-dose antibiotics drip into my veins 24/7 for fifteen days, and thinking: “This is what killed James. This is what killed James.”
I survived. But I didn’t change. I went right back to the same patterns—caregiving, pushing, sacrificing. Because I didn’t know there was another way.
I needed a book that would tell me:
- Your body is not optional
- Rest is not a luxury you earn—it’s a survival requirement
- Choosing yourself doesn’t make you selfish—it makes you a steward
- You can rebuild at 57, 63, 70—it’s never too late to become
But that book wasn’t on any shelf I could find.
So I kept going. Kept pushing. Kept treating my body like it was expendable.
Until sepsis came back. Twice more.
By October 2020—after my third battle with sepsis, after losing my right great toe to amputation, after my body literally screamed “ENOUGH”—I finally understood:
I couldn’t keep sacrificing myself for everyone else and expect to survive.
The Moment Everything Changed
August 27, 2024.
That’s the day I chose myself for the first time in sixteen years.
My mother fell from her wheelchair that morning. As I stood over her, waiting forty-five agonizing minutes for help to arrive, something broke inside me. Not my devotion to her. Not my love. But the lie that my presence was the only thing holding the sky up.
When we got to the hospital, a social worker looked me in the eyes and said words I’d been waiting years to hear: “Karen, you need help. You cannot do this anymore.”
That evening, I made the hardest decision of my life: I placed my mother in skilled nursing care.
And then I looked in the mirror.
I didn’t recognize the woman staring back at me. Her eyes were dull. Her skin was gray with exhaustion. Her spirit was buried so deep under the needs of others that even she had forgotten it was there.
I realized: If I didn’t choose myself now, there wouldn’t be anything left of me to save.
Two months later, I packed my personal belongings into my car and left Savannah. I went to Denver first, thinking proximity to my son Benjamin would be enough. But it wasn’t. My soul was still restless.
Then I drove to Las Vegas. And the moment I crossed the city limits on November 20, 2024, I knew. The desert sky stretched impossibly wide above me, and something inside me exhaled for the first time since May 5, 2009—the day James died.
I was home. I was finally ready to be found.
Why I’m Writing This Book in Real Time
Here’s what makes Becoming Her different from every other “transformation” book you’ve read:
I’m not writing from the mountaintop. I’m writing from the trail.
As I type these words in January 2026, I’m only fourteen months into my Vegas life. My first digital product (this ebook) hasn’t launched yet. My first cohort hasn’t run. My manifesto sits in my LinkedIn drafts because every time I read it, fear whispers: “Who are you to declare sovereignty at 57?”
I am teaching you how to become while I am still becoming.
And that’s exactly why you need this book.
Because you don’t need another polished expert telling you what to do from a place of “arrival.” You need someone walking the messy middle with you—someone who knows what it’s like to doubt, to wobble, to wake up some mornings and wonder if you’re really capable of this.
You need someone who survived what you’re surviving. Who chose herself when it felt like betrayal. Who rebuilt at 57 when the world said she was “too late.”
You need a mirror, not a manual.
What You’ll Find Inside Becoming Her
This book is structured in four parts—each one building on the last:
Part I: The Awakening (The Foundation of Becoming)
You’ll witness the cocoon—the years of survival that required everything I had. You’ll understand why trauma pauses identity, how grief puts whole parts of us on mute, and what it means to finally choose the “Sacred Exit” from a life that’s consuming you.
Chapters include:
- The Cocoon of Survival
- The Three Deaths & The Mandate for Life (my sepsis story)
- The Sacred Exit & The Move to Vegas
Part II: Kingdom Embodiment (The Temple)
You’ll learn what it means to finally inhabit your body as a sanctuary instead of treating it like a tool. You’ll discover the warrior archetype that protects your peace, and you’ll meet the Proverbs 31 woman reimagined—not as an exhausted martyr, but as a sovereign, embodied leader.
Chapters include:
- Your Body as Sanctuary, Not Sacrifice
- The Warrior Archetype & Protective Leadership
- The Proverbs 31 Woman Reimagined
Part III: The Sovereign Soft Life (The Framework)
You’ll discover the frameworks that make sovereignty sustainable. You’ll learn how to remove unnecessary weight, build Sabbath as the foundation (not the afterthought), and create Kingdom businesses that serve your life instead of consuming it.
Chapters include:
- Defining the Sovereign Soft Life
- The P.R.I.V.É. Philosophy (precision, refinement, immersive luxury, visionary living, élan & excellence)
- Sabbath as Architecture
- Kingdom Business & The Laptop Lifestyle
Part IV: The 90-Day Emergence (The Path Forward)
You’ll receive your practical roadmap for the next 90 days—written from inside my own messy middle. This isn’t theory. This is the exact plan I’m using right now to build my first offerings, launch my business, and prove the concept.
Chapter includes:
- The 90-Day Metamorphosis (with monthly breakdowns, weekly practices, and grace for the wobble)
Bonus Section: Resources for Your Becoming
Practical tools you can use immediately: The 7-Day Embodiment Starter Practice, Sabbath Business Planning Template, Scripture Study Guide, and more.
This Is the Book I Needed—And I Think You Need It Too
I wrote Becoming Her for the woman who:
- Has spent years being “the strong one” while her own dreams waited
- Is exhausted by businesses or careers that consume her
- Is ready to treat her body as a temple instead of a tool
- Wants to build a Kingdom-aligned life that honors Sabbath rest
- Is in her second act (40s, 50s, 60s, 70s+) and ready to finally choose herself
- Is tired of performing strength and ready to embody sovereignty
If that’s you, this book is your permission slip.
It’s my story—raw, vulnerable, still unfolding. But it’s also your roadmap. Because the path from survival to sovereignty, from depletion to the Sovereign Soft Life, from postponed to present—that’s a path we can walk together.
Why You Should Pre-Order Today
Here’s what I know about transformation: It requires movement before you feel ready.
If you wait until you’re “ready” to choose yourself, you’ll never start. If you wait until you “have time” to read this book, you’ll keep postponing yourself. If you wait until everything is “handled” before you invest in your own becoming, you’ll still be waiting at 70.
The time is now. You are exactly on time.
When you pre-order Becoming Her today, you’re not just buying a book. You’re making a declaration: “I am ready to meet the woman I’m becoming. I am done postponing myself. I am choosing sovereignty.”
Pre-order now for $22.95 (15% off the $27 launch price) and receive your ebook on February 14, 2026—Valentine’s Day. The day you finally choose to love yourself enough to become.
The hardcopy edition will be available in March 2026, and pre-order customers will be notified first.
The Woman You’re Becoming Is Waiting
I don’t know exactly who I’ll be when I fully emerge from this metamorphosis. But I know she’s worth the discomfort. She’s worth the wobble. She’s worth choosing myself every single day—even when it’s terrifying.
The same is true for you.
The woman you’re becoming—fully healed, fully embodied, fully sovereign—she’s been waiting for you to choose her. She’s been waiting for you to treat your body as a temple. She’s been waiting for you to build the Sovereign Soft Life.
She’s ready. Are you?
This book is my hand reaching back into the cocoon, saying: “I know it’s dark in there. I know you’re scared. But the wings are forming. Trust the process. Come become with me.”
You are not too late. You are exactly on time.
Pre-order your copy of Becoming Her now →
Karen Y. Moore is a faith-based embodiment coach and Kingdom business advisor helping women build modern-day Proverbs 31 lives—strong, sovereign, and rooted in rest, not exhaustion. After sixteen years of caregiving and surviving sepsis three times, she chose herself at 57 and relocated to Las Vegas, where she now teaches women how to embody their sovereignty and build the Sovereign Soft Life. Connect with her at karenymoore.com.
